The romance of travel
Things used to be different, when we could pick up and travel at the drop of a hat. One of our first “dates” was a road trip across Colorado to the Telluride Bluegrass Festival. Nothing like the cramped confines of a two-person tent high in the mountains to speed up a courtship. It worked.
Two months later, at a waterfall in Nicaragua, I asked Sutay to marry me. After our simple wedding ceremony, we decided that we needed meaningful experiences together more than we needed a bedroom set or a mortgage. So we quit everything and took a 16-month honeymoon around the world.
Then we settled back in Colorado. Nine years later, everything about our relationship is still defined by travel. From our rambling roots together to our dreams of future epic family vacations, to our current explorations of the state with three young daughters. Last summer, we spent a month car camping in nearly every national park and monument. It’s the same sense of wanderlust that originally guided us as a couple, just recalibrated for our family. Sometimes we take short-burst hotel overnights. Sometimes we go on longer car-camping assaults.
But travel is romantic, no matter what your relationship status is. If you’re single, as long as you allow your trip to lead you to strange, new encounters, possibly amorous ones, they might happen. Travel and love are about dancing with the unknown, accepting unplanned episodes and sharing the not-so-fun parts too — the delays, the dirt, the waiting, the traffic. Once you find a like-minded partner, you keep going, together now and discovering new places as you discover each other.
In Colorado, that could mean a camper in the wilderness, a lonely trek to some mountain hut or splurging on some luxury hot-spring honeymoon package. Or, um, staying home for a standard school-night evening — feeding the girls, bathing them, packing school lunches, breaking up fights, singing lullabies. If we’re lucky, there will be no screaming or tears. Then maybe, just maybe, my wife and I will get a moment together after everyone is asleep.
Maybe we’ll take out a road atlas and talk about travel and camping plans for the spring. What’s sexier than that?
Joshua Berman is the author of “Crocodile Love: Travel Tales from an Extended Honeymoon.” JoshuaBerman.net and twitter.com/tranquilotravel.
Book launch: The book launch party for Joshua Berman’s “Crocodile Love: Travel Tales from an Extended Honeymoon” is at 7 p.m. Feb. 18 at Innisfree Poetry Bookstore and Cafe, 1301 Pennsylvania Ave., Boulder. http://innisfreepoetry.com/events/